Sometimes a Heart Can’t Afford to Be Just Friends

Click on the above image to peep the tweet which says,
“Sometimes a heart can’t afford to be just friends.”

My general rule is that if I am uncomfortable, I won’t do it.

I been number one AND number two before.

Number dos is bad for your self esteem IF YOU really want
the top spot. I was a kid then when I did that shit. I’m grown now.

Saw this tweet and thought it was remarkable, given the
“can we be friends” or “can you have friends” terrain I have
be walking lately. Ummp. Ummm. Ummp.

Yeah its time for Love and Abundance….I feel a paradigm shift

My momma say, “Good things come to those who wait,
just don’t wait too long.”

Phonte’s Just Friends

Amy Winehouse <<Just Friends track.

Became anyone’s “friend” lately?

Had to make someone a “friend”?


Aye Blood…….

I am old enough to know that it will go away.

But damn Gina if I don’t miss my friend.

Tonight, I am working on a review of 5 years of a feminist journal. I got stacks of papers, outlines, mo’ stacks of papers. The goal is for us to start thinking about the places that we would like to publish, places where our work will fit.

Hard assignment.

But it is the kind of thing that will allow me to KNOW a journal that I would like my work to be in.

Sometimes, there is nothing harder than accepting that you
have to let that thang go.

What’s perhaps even more difficult is when the person
was your friend, and that you are similarly situated
in life, in terms of work. That cha’ll went or will soon go through
the same shit.

In fact, this assignment is showing me how historians are like
lawyers in that they stay putting stuff into seperate categories,
then analyzing the categories. I have been thinking in terms of
categories and themes for the last 48 hours to make this assignment pop off.

I am close to God tonight.? I’m tired. Imma work till 12, then lay it down.

I would imagine he may read from time to time. So,
if you catch this Love, I am doing a review of 5 years
of the journal Meridians and the papers are awesome:

“Guantanamo: A Feminist Perspective on U.S Human Rights Violations” by Victoria Brittain

“Never Innocent: Feminist Trouble with Sex Offender Registries and Protection in a Prison Nation” by Erica Meiners

“The Future of our Worlds: Black Feminism and the Politics of Knowledge in the University under Globalization” by Grace Kyungwon Hong

“Hip-Hop Honeys and Da Hustlaz: Black Sexualities in the New Hip Hop Pornography” by Mireille Miller-Young

Back to 2nd person.

I know that he would appreciate not only the fact that I have this assignment, but the pedagogy that the professor is using in terms of getting us to do the assignment. She just said DO it. No guide. It is forcing us to stretch.

I COULD call a grad school homie, but we all doing the same assignment. At home, pressed, reading, trying to make sense of it all and meet our deadline.

I am grateful for this blog as a place to work it out.

Thank you for reading. Especially you You inspire me.

Fearless y vulnerable,


Quoted: Global Feminism, Gats, Haiti, Nukes

Structural Violence makes population more vulnerable to social, economic, health, and environmental harms. Not only has the United States increased structural violence against its own population in favor of waging direct (and structural) violence abroad, but also a number of other countries, some of which have the weakest social safety nets, have made similar choices, given that most “developing” countries spend as much or more on military’s than on basic social services.

From the book, Global Gender Issues in the New Millenium by V. Spike Peterson and Anne Sisson Runyan.

I never heard of “structural violence” until I read this.

But as soon as I read this paragraph I thought of Haiti,
the history of the global embargo on Haiti, and WHY hoods in the US don’t have access to fruits and vegetables.

Elison Elliott’s post on Haiti does an awesome job of illuminating the historical structural violence carried out against Haiti. He writes, quoting Yvette Roper, an energy infrastructure professional:

In 1806, fearful that the Haitian Revolution (1804) might inspire enslaved Africans in other parts of the Western hemisphere to rebel, the U.S. Congress banned trade with Haiti, joining French,?Spanish and Portuguese?boycotts. Global shipping originating in or by Haiti was banned from trading with or entering American and European ports of trade. This coordinated embargo effectively crippled Haiti?s export-driven economy and its development as a once prosperous Caribbean port.? The embargo was renewed in 1807 and 1809, and in one form or another has lasted 197 years ? with additional restrictions added in 1991 ? until as recently as 2003.? The embargo was accompanied by a threat of re-colonization and re-enslavement by the American-European alliance if Haiti failed to compensate France for losses incurred when French plantation owners, as a result of the Haitian Revolution, lost Haiti?s lucrative sugar, coffee and tobacco fortunes supported by slave labor. [Dunkel, 1994] Haiti spent the next 111 years, until 1922, paying 70% of its national revenues in reparations to France ? a ransom enforced by the American-European trade alliance as the price for Haiti?s independence.

As a direct consequence of this orchestrated, century-long economic strangulation, Haiti is, today,?the poorest country in the Western Hemisphere by any measure: Haiti?s debt was $302 million in 1980. In 1997 it was almost $1.1 billion, which is almost 40% of its Gross National Product. The value of its exports has fallen to 62% of 1987 levels. It should be listed as a severely indebted low-income country but the International Monetary Fund and the World Bank have refused to do so under the insistence of the North Atlantic alliance.

For me, the lack of access to fruits and vegetables in low income
neighborhoods in the US and the historical embargo’s?against Haiti are both manifestations of structural violence.

I was also moved by another section of?Global Gender Issues that focused on? military spending. I follow Mohammd Yunus and Nick Kirstoff’s work because they get hella shine with regard to addressing issues regarding global women in the world. BUT. Neither one of them have a critique of capitalism.

Giving women an “education” and making “the market” available to them, and giving them “microcredit loans” are some of the working premises that guide Kristoff’s and Yunnus’s work.

How is Capitalism going to solve the problems that it has

Now on the nukes.

The following paragraph illuminates some concepts
that about the notion of security and war.

Peterson and Runyan write:

The quest for absolute security is itself productive of violence, for it relies on the eradication of all threats, real or imagined, and thus sets up a never ending defensive and offensive posture. Such a posture is emblematic of a “sovereign man” who like the sovereign state is fashioned upon this construct of hegemonic masculinity, thwarts connection and interdependence in fear of engagement with difference that might break down walls between sovereign “self”and the “other” on whom is projected all that one denies in oneself.”

“They got guns// we got guns too//” ~Raekwon, Wu Tang

Basically, what does security look like if everyone has guns, and some countries have nuclear weapons or even simply the access to creating
and selling them?

What does a secure world look like?

What does a policy that takes into consideration the fact
that women and children are disproportionally impact by wars,

Is security a social construction?

Where is the conversation about how if? the US is? running two? wars we will have no remaining capital to sustain a?social safety net?

“Third World as Retirement Home”>>These Negros

These negros are talking about shipping
the elderly from the Global north (First world
north) to the Global south (Third world south)?

So you mean to tell me, rather than deal
with humans where they are, to provide them with
health care after they have worked, had children,
paid taxes, fought in wars, they will be
shipped somewhere else because it “makes
more sense.” This is profound.

This is another example of the ways in
which the lives of the folks of the Third
World South, subsidize the lives of the folks in
the First World North.

One somewhat daring approach ? would be to encourage a reverse flow of older immigrants from developed to developing countries. If older residents of developed countries took their retirements along the southern coast of the Mediterranean or in Latin America or Africa, it would greatly reduce the strain on their home countries? public entitlement systems. The developing countries involved, meanwhile, would benefit because caring for the elderly and providing retirement and leisure services is highly labor intensive. Relocating a portion of these activities to developing countries would provide employment and valuable training to the young, growing populations of the Second and Third Worlds.

The audacity of creating, in 2010 and beyond an
entire country of underpaid Negro, Asian and Latino
nurses and servants is incredible.

In some ways, this IS the manifestation
of a world separated into two groups,
the Elite and the people who serve them.

Brazil is this way, and California and New York
City are moving towards it.

As I always say, where will people go and
what will they eat?

We are all connected.