A (Black) Feminist Note to Young White Feminists

The idea for this post came to me while I was reflecting on my work as a teaching assistant and teacher over the past year.

It is interesting how much I have changed as a person, having taught such hairy issues such as race, class, gender, sexuality, double jeopardy, the matrix of oppression etc.

My ability to read the energy in a room is sharpened, I feel empowered to intervene and de-escalate when it is clear that a situation may become out of control and harmful.

I saw a lot of promise in my students. They were interested in creating a better world. Some were very conscious of the privileges that they held in terms of class, race or gender. They were pariticulary floored when they learned that only 27% of the country has a bachelors degree.

The young white women students seemed to be most moved by the fact that their male peers could possibly earn more than them, even if they have the same training. They looked down right sad. When I saw this I told them that they looked down right sad. I also told them that we are arming them with this information so that they can go out in the world, and that they would be a apart of a long line of people who have seen issues with the world and decided to do something about it.

What I want them to be mindful of is the distinction between structural issues and individual issues and how they are both connected and distinct. It was challenging for them to think about how social systems, schools, church’s and families teach them what being “man” or being a “woman” is as most of them have been trained to think about the individual and choice. For the most part, they eventually got it.  In fact, they were really clear on the connection between the individual and the institution when it came to issues of reproductive justice. They understood that a woman can only make a “choice” based on the conditions in which she finds herself.

What was the most interesting thing about them is their ability to spot contridictions. It freaked me out at times. It kept me on my toes after I realized that they could spot contradictions the way that they could. In creating my lesson plans I anticipated their ability to spot contradictions.

For instance:

They were able to see the contridiction between the idea of the “melting pot” and the “all american beauty.”

They were able to ask why, when women out number men, are women not more frequently placed in positions of decision making authoritity?

They were able to see the contradiction between women “having it all” and women being expected to do all of the house hold social reproductive labor.
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Lastly, they were able to see the contradiction between a society that claimed to treat everyone equally yet perpetually paid women less for the same work that their male counter parts did, because in our social system, paying half of the workforce less means more money for profits.

I wanted my students to understand that it is up to them to take their lives seriously.

I want them to know that women are both similar and different, and that these differences should not stop them from engaging in social justice work. That we are ALL human beings. This does not mean that I am not Black and they- at least most of them, are not White, because we have our respective packaging and that  our “packaging” has histories.

One of my most impressive students was a young woman who wants to be a federal agent. And if she sustains her passion for reading and writing and work, she will be one. One day she asked me, Ms. Jarmon, “What do I do if I go on a job interview, and I get the job, but the employer is racist.” I was floored. Because this is a profound question.

I said to her, “Wow, well, there are a few things that you can do. Let’s talk about your options. Thank you for sharing this with me, because as your teacher, working through these kinds of issues are important.”

We then proceeded to discuss what her options would be in this kind of situation.

It was in this moment that I was reminded of my passion for teaching and how fulfilling it is to connect with students.

#ummhmm.

What would you tell a young white woman who is interested in social justice work?

As a teacher, what are your favorite moments?

Have you noticed how my writing has changed over the last year? I guess that is a question for long time readers.

Comments

  1. Renina says

    That they need to think structurally and on the individual level about gender inequality.
    That the fact that women are similar and different should not change their commitment to social justice work.
    That because they are women they will be paid less than men.
    The the purpose of teaching them about inequality between women and men is for them to go out and change the world, as they are the future.
    That being white, they have privileges that women of color do not have. That they should not be guilty but be aware, reflective in an constant dialogue about such privileges.
    That. That. That….

  2. Amy RoseChan says

    I am a (white) mental health counselor, working in the field for just a few years now. I am still learning a lot and have a lot to learn. I have heard more about what I needed to know from women I work with than from teachers in college. (much gratitude and love for the women who (didn’t) put up with my bullshit and had strength to stand up and tell me about it!)

    To better understand a diverse population of women I needed to know:

    -My oppression is wrapped up in the oppression of others. I can help other women better by knowing that. my ability to help is limited if I am doing it because I feel guilty, or because I think have more knowledge or am in a “better” position. I know getting “charity” does not feel good. It feels good to have someone sitting with you in the struggle.

    -It’s not my job to explain (my position, why I might think a certain way). It can be easy to get defensive. I need to listen to all different women about what they really feel, want, need and what their position is. Instead of assuming I understand because I read a bell hooks book or something. Sometimes I need to apologize.

    -I need to give credit where credit is due. We are all co-creators of knowledge. I like to keep pictures of people who inspire me to remind me that many of my good ideas are not my own!

    -Its ok to cry, break down, and be honest about how hard social justice work is.

    Thanks for your wonderful blog!

  3. Renina says

    Amy!

    “I know getting “charity” does not feel good. It feels good to have someone sitting with you in the struggle. ”

    This is it. This is all it is.

    With so much Love,

    R