In mid January, a woman, a middle class, beautiful Jewishwoman shared a story with me about dating. Among many things, she talked about dating men who drank,and drank, and drank and wondering why she continued topick these dudes. She went on to describe what it meant to shift from repeatedlydating men that were unavailable and [...]
Posts Tagged ‘Filthy’
Dirty Drawls Love
Wednesday, March 25th, 20092 Train Wisdom
Thursday, February 5th, 2009Last Tuesday, I ran into a homie, Simone, on the 2 train.She is in BK now, but she is from Oakland, and we both knowcommon people. We are cool, but not tight. This is important to note becauseof the significance of what she went on to say to me. I know Simone to be real [...]
Vibrate Higher
Friday, January 30th, 2009A dear friend sent me an e-mail this morning, inviting me to his wedding and also commenting on my situation with Filthy. I’m telling you this for a couple reasons. First, as my friend, I wanted to share this good news and my feelings with you. I hope you have some sense of how much [...]
Now I’m Realizing that I Love Her
Wednesday, January 21st, 2009I got the call on Christmas Eve. “Ne, I made a mistake.”It was Filthy. I listened, and we decided to link up in mid January.So, he came to a meeting that I spoke at this past Saturday.I was nervous and vulnerable. But, I felt fearless and good.The speech went well.He then broke the news. he [...]
Not Gone Be Able to Do: The Love Below
Monday, December 22nd, 2008Matthew and (Re)ninaForte Green, Brooklyn June 2008 It’s been about a month since my relationship ended, or -if youwill, changed. I have never known a human being that I could spend fiveor six consecutive days with and not want to kill them afterday 3, or be enraged at them, or see the roots of resentmentgrowing [...]
The Silence of Black Women Writers
Thursday, December 18th, 2008Black writers are a cursed lot. By its virtue of its origin, suture and function, black writing ismission conscious and is necessarily a hazardous undertaking. In turn being a black writer is an enobiling, exigency and black literature constitutes one of the supreme enrichment’s of black culture and black life. This has been and is [...]
The Blues and Transformation
Friday, October 17th, 2008Still from I’m Through with White Girls There is something to be said for The “Borderless Relationship”post, as it was was a catalyst for change in M.dots world. Out of a desire to both write in a way that reflects what wehave come to be known for, and to also avoid beingoutta pocket (see that [...]
Attack of the Borderless Relationships
Sunday, October 12th, 2008Flick from “Im Through With White Girls” Borderless relationships are dangerous because there isonly a matter of time before a border is crossed and the entirespot gets blown. This past weekend, I fell back from Filthy.He decided to take the time to deal with the impact of aborderless relationship with a lady friend that preceded [...]
On Waiting Around for A Man
Monday, September 22nd, 2008A few weeks back I was speaking with Tracey Rose about how as women,we will drop what we are doing, a paper or a project, to kick it with a man.I understand that a distraction is a distraction, and sometimes you desireone because you just don’t want to be working on what you have in [...]
Adult Relationship Skills
Wednesday, August 13th, 2008Recently, I have experienced some emotional upheaval. In the past, Filthy has had bad experiences with introducing hisfemale friends to the lady that he was dating at the time. On two different occasions in the past, he did the introductionand one of the women ended up being salty. Apparently, it made life type unbearable. So [...]
