in particular the line of...There is a fine, fine art to being in pain and not falling apart.I have had several challenges in the last month. I was facing deadlines,different areas of my life were flatlining, others were soaring,it was real. There are about four things that I have identified that have beenintegral to being able to be in [...]
Posts Tagged ‘In the Gristle’
How to Be in Pain and Not Fall Apart
Wednesday, November 26th, 2008The Blues and Transformation
Friday, October 17th, 2008Still from I’m Through with White Girls There is something to be said for The “Borderless Relationship”post, as it was was a catalyst for change in M.dots world. Out of a desire to both write in a way that reflects what wehave come to be known for, and to also avoid beingoutta pocket (see that [...]
On Waiting Around for A Man
Monday, September 22nd, 2008A few weeks back I was speaking with Tracey Rose about how as women,we will drop what we are doing, a paper or a project, to kick it with a man.I understand that a distraction is a distraction, and sometimes you desireone because you just don’t want to be working on what you have in [...]
Thoughts on Men, Emotions and the Feedback Loop
Saturday, March 29th, 2008It wasn’t until December that I learned the extent to which SJ was looking at the front door. We were talking, something that we did 2 or 3 times a day,and he casually mentioned “This is the best conversationthat we have had in like 6 weeks”. I was like errrrrk record scratch. I knew the [...]
72 Hours of New Amerykah: Part II – First I was Malcom, now I’m El Hajj
Saturday, March 1st, 2008Last weekend, in BK, I resided with Mean Sexy‘s sister,Flybug Starski. We had one of those 4am, in the gristleconversations. We discussed our paths in life, whetherwe where we wanted to be and coping and planning for the future. It was awkward, painful and necessary. She demonstratedto me how my people can hold me down [...]
The White Privilage Package
Monday, July 2nd, 2007In that post supreme court decision conversation with the libertarian, I neglected to mention to you all that his homie was there. In fact, he is our mutual colleague. During our conversation I mentioned my Why are N*ggas so Homophobic post? I explained how at the end of the day, Black Male sexuality and swag [...]
Are N*ggas Really That Homophobic?
Wednesday, June 27th, 2007I was reading the Village Voice interview with DJ Khaled and he shouted his brothers b-day saying, “Man, I’m feeling good,” Khaled says as he goes live on Orlando’s 102 Jamz. “I’m on my way to Orlando ’cause it’s my brother’s birthday. Mayne: Happy birthday. I love you. No homo. I noted to myself, that [...]
