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P*ssy is a Commodity

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Last week, Beauty in Baltimore asked me, Whats the
difference between a woman who charges [for sex]
and a woman who goes home with dudes from the
club from free? While I had a response, I knew that by
the nature of comments that followed that the very
question deserved its own post.

The intersection of sex and commerce has always been
present here on Model Minority. It has come up in the Duke
Rape case, the R-Kellychild molestation case, the discussion
of Karrine Stephens book and Spitzergate.

I have always been interested in labor and compensation,
so this is right up my alley. However, while had some ideas,
I didn’t have the language to concisely describe
the difference between a prostitute and a woman who goes
home with a guy from the club because she is trying to get
some rent money.

So, I had to reach out to Birkhold to get some clarity on the
distinction.

As a result of my conversation with him, I have narrowed down
three fundamental distinctions between the two groups.

The first distinction is that for a prostitute, her vagina is
a commodity. The john is literally paying for what is in
between her legs. The prostitute-John relationship turns
on the fact that she has been bought.

This notion underscores the fact that paying for sex
with a prostituteis renting a womans sexual labor. Sex
becomes labor for sell.

The second distinction is that the prostitute cannot say no.
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not only violence, but the police and scars and bruises to
her body that will impact her ability to work. Whereas, the
lady going home with a dude, or even me, the hungry grad
student with a penchant for Thai can always say no. We
have leverage that a prostitute never has.

Many times we haven’t made up our mind on what we are
going to do. If I am sitting in a Tribeca Thai spot with a banker,
I can always decide if I do or do not want to go back to his
loft. The prostitute has no such option.

The third distinction is that, conceivably, neither me, nor
the club lady would be eating or going home with someone
that we didn’t find reasonably attractive in the first place.
The prostitute, has no say in choosing whether he is attractive
or not, the sex-labor has been purchased. Her attraction
to him is irrelevant.

So there it is, short and sweet, Sex-Labor 101.

You convinced or am I blowing hot air?
Does the distinction resonate?
What do you think of the idea of Sex as Labor?

Sex Sells, But No One Wants to Talk About Buying It.

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I have been thinking about Spitzergate.

The Duke Rape Case.

Karrine Stepans, her books and the reflexive venom
she elicits from those in the online hip hop world.

I have been thinking about my voice in the
blogosphere.

Been thinking about Akon and his assault case with the 16 teenager
that looked older than 16.

I remember, when we were discussing issues, being the lone female
voice in a largely, cyber, male environment. Not complaining.
I got agency. Spitzergate reminded me of Akon, which
inspired me to try and draw some connections.

Feeling better than some head on a Sunday afterno0n
feeling better than a chick that say yes too soon
Until you have a daughter, thats what I call karma
Then you pray god, that she don’t grow breasts to soon
~We Major, Kanye

When the Akon event happened,
cats were talking about “I would hit it, she look good”.

I came back at them with a question.
I asked, “Have you ever rocked with a girl, and it soon became
clear that while she consented to something sexual that
she was in over her head?”

I also reminded cats that the girl, no matter how grown
she looked, was someone’s underage daughter.

With the Duke Rape Case, I went back and forth with Dallas
about his perception of the extent to which “the responsibility”
for the Black Family fell on the Momma. I took a issue with notion that
it overwhelming fell on the mothers and many others did as well.

I remember going hard with dudes, after Karinne’s book
came out. To them, she was the scummiest scum, because
she kissed and told. Same with Nas’s baby momma.

During these times, all I kept thinking was we can listen
to Fat Joe, 50 Cent, Mobb Deep, Wu Tang, Boot Camp,
Jay Z, The Clipse, Freeway, talk about selling crack and
they get the STRAIGHT PASS, but a woman has sex with
a rapper and talks about it and she is as wrong as 10 snitches.

I was instantly reminded of this when I saw this Jay
Smooth video where he talks about the “irony” of Ashley Dupree
capitalizing on her situation to getting a deal “.



Last week, Kirstoff at The Times shared some gems on
Spitzergate and the sex trade. He writes,

Reading between the sheets, the world of ?Kristen? and Eliot Spitzer may seem relatively benign. She may have been abused as a child, and tangled with drugs and homelessness, but she was also a consenting adult who apparently kept half the cash that customers paid for her.

That?s a dangerously unrepresentative glimpse of prostitution in America. Those who work with street prostitutes say that what they see daily is pimps who control teenage girls with violence and threats ? plus an emotional bond ? and then keep every penny the girl is paid.
?Sometimes I meet a girl who says, ?I have a really good pimp ? he beats me only with an open hand,? ? said Rachel Lloyd, a former prostitute who runs a program for underage prostitutes in New York City. So you need to http://www.slovak-republic.org/visa-embassies/comment-page-1/ viagra overnight no prescription take care of our health. UK and EU customers are also enjoying cialis pills australia 24/7 customer service team available to help you with any problem or concerns. Well, answer to your question is yes; brinjal and sexual health through the use of drugs like tadalafil buy india and treatments for erectile Dysfunction Other than medicines and natural treatments to help relieve indications. Some of price for levitra the studies admitted that less than 25% men are actually seeking medical treatment. ?Many of the girls see the pimps as boyfriends, but violence is integral to everything that happens in the sex industry. That?s how you get punished for not bringing in your quota for that evening, or for looking your pimp in the eye.?

I have a really good pimp… That’s some bugged out sh-t.

Every evening she must earn a quota of money before she can sleep. She may be required to tattoo the pimp?s name on her thigh. And in exchange he may make presents of clothing or jewelry.

It?s complicated: What keeps her isn?t just fear, but also often an emotional connection.

?When somebody wields power over you to kill you and doesn?t, you feel this bizarre thankfulness,? Mr. Myles said. ?It?s trauma bonding.?

When a middle-class white girl ends up controlled like this ? think of Elizabeth Smart, the Utah girl who was kidnapped in 2002 and apparently did not try to escape ? then everybody is outraged at the way the kidnapper manipulated her. But when the girls are black, poor and prostituted, there is either indifference or an assumption that they are consenting to the abuse.

I couldn’t believe Kristoff said this. I read it a few times,
thinking that perhaps, it was a quote, but he said it.

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Sex Sells, But No One Wants to Talk About Buying It.

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Birkhold Sonned Me on Spitzergate: The Hillary-Spitzer Connection

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Yesterday, I mentioned to Birkhold that I felt bad for Elliott’s wife,
Silda Spitzer. He asked why?

M.dot: Because, its embarrassing.
B: F-ck that. She has agency (an ability to act on her own behalf. In this
this case, acting would have meant leaving Elliott).
M.dot: Yeah, but still.
B: Listen M. A man who is married and getting prostitutes
is not treating his wife right at home.
B: I am waiting for a woman, some woman to stand up, and point
out all the kinky sh-t he has done so folks can see exactly who they
elected.
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M.dot: Like Hillary who sat by and watched her husband screw god
knows what, because she wanted to be president?
B: Exactly.

Then I turned around and read this and while it wasn’t directed
at me, I was like, sh-t, I just got sonned. When I reflected on my
rambling Spitzer post yesterday, I felt like a lame feminist. He writes,

Our society expects so little of men that we see Spitzer?s involvement with a prostitute as normal male behavior. We live in a society where men commonly refer to sex in violent terms like ?beat it up? and ?hit it.? Consequently, we minimize the seriousness of sexual violence towards women. In truth, if our society were to examine Spitzer?s misogyny, it would be like holding a mirror up to the politically powerful men calling for his resignation.

I couldn’t help but think of the notion of the “Soft Bigotry
of Low Expectations” and how it plays out in
both our political and school systems.

It became clear how low expectations are toxic to our democracy.

This idea will fortify me the next time someone tells me that
I expect too much.

It became clear to me how accountability just isn’t a word,
it is a rigorous, daily action, that requires the moral nimbleness
of a ninja. (I like saying moral nimbleness of a ninja).

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Why do we deny people the right to agency?

Why do we, reflexively, think of people as victims
not as folks who are capable of acting?

I guess as a victim, you are automatically someone
who is acted upon, not someone is committing an act.

Don’t forget the school of thought that counts INACTION
as an action as well.

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Spitzergate

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Man. Elliot. I liked you dude. You went after the white collar cats
with a vengeance.

Bill- Clinton. Monica.
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Gavin- SF Mayor. Really offended men by sleeping with his best
friends, wife.
Ted Haggert- Republican. Denied having sex with young boys.
Antonio- LA Mayor. Had an affair with TV news reporter.

Men and sex with women who are not their wives, or in Ted Haggerts
case, young men.

Perhaps we need more women mayors?

Just read in the paper that.
Peep game. Gavin is getting ready to run for governor.

As a politician, when you hold yourself out
to be a morally accountable, the definition of
political accountability at work, you are all the more delicious
of a target.

Perhaps like so many people, politicians an non politicians alike, he
believed the hype and got zapped.

I am uber curious about one thing.

This man has been in public life for years.
He has presumably been doing this for years.

Why the investigation now?

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Spitzergate.

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