I am back. Yeaaah! And I still have my hair. Still more work to do, but the major hurdle has been jumped.
So, what do you want me to write about?
Here are some of the ideas that I have so far.
1. Queering Malcolm, Queering Lil B: On Black Men’s Sexuality.
2. For Colored Girls Who Have to Tell Negro Men to Sit Down When They Question Her Gender Theorizing.
3. DC’s Rich Black Madam: Odessa Madre, a 1930’s Rich Madam.
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4. Why Mambu Badu is the Freshest Thing Since Honey Magazine.
5. Black Girls Grad School Survival Guide or For Colored Girls Who Considered Grad School When Being an Admin Got Janky.
5. How Goldy Changed My Life with Four Words: Are You Seeing Anyone?
Is there anything else that I said I would write about, but I haven’t yet. Do you have any suggestions?
Let me know.
-R
1. D.C. Madam
2. Goldy
3. Black Girls Survival Guide
4.Black Men’s Sexuality
5. Telling Men to sit Down
I will read whatever you write 🙂
Write an article on what a sex-positive Hip-Hop sounds/looks like.
Or about dope lady Jazz musicians like Alice Coltrane, Esperanza Spalding, and so on.
Or p’raps an article on how ways folks can connect/share resources across diasporas lines. There’s probably a Native American Feminist Sex manifesto out thurr somewhere.
Alternatively, write a guide on making a blog-mixtape about race relations.
“4. Why Mambu Badu is the Freshest Thing Since Honey Magazine.”
!!! Thank you.
Ooh, you should write about Odessa Madre. Apparently she owned a park in the neighborhood I live in now but I haven’t seen it on an old map yet. Just ads in old black newspapers.
I’d also like to hear about For Colored Girls…
imma need you to write all of those… and maybe a series on books that shaped your perspective and/or pushed you towards your mission – perhaps a book list and resources that can provide a frame for younger souls. mussings on teaching the babies. 100V.
Thank you lovebears.
I want to write all of these. Danny, thank you for remembering For Colored Girls. You know Thandie Newton had more sex in that film than Black women have had in the last 10 years on the silver screen. She was punished for it, per usual but still. That is something that I want to write about.
Amadaneus. I had an idea to teach a class on the internet “Black Women’s Sexuality and the Blues.” Your idea around jazz muscian women reminds me of this.
A blog mixtape about race relations? What would that look like. That sounds both intriguing and Big.
I have really been thinking about doing a video blog with Latoya @ racialious on race and digital feminisms, every since I learned that she had lots of readers under 18.
Yessirp.
I would love to read what you think about Kola Boof…
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All of those and a few other topics that have been on my mind, that I would LOVE to read your perspective on.
1. How our relationships with our parents (and their relationships with each other) influence our relationships.
2. Sister-Friends, having them (their necessity), &maintaining them.
3. Apologies from people with major roles in your life that feel “too late.”
4. And advice for a Lost Cub in college who is very unsure of where to take her life after school ends…
Thank you in advance.
Hi Ashley.
Thank you for your feedback.
I am thinking and my notes are below.
1.How our relationships with our parents (and their relationships with each other) influence our relationships.
What in particular would you like me to focus on?
3. Apologies from people with major roles in your life that feel “too late.” All up in the bone gristle eh? How late is too late? Awesome question. I actually have two sisters I don’t speak to. We can rock if they heal, until then, I am cool.
4 Apologies from people with major roles in your life that feel “too late.” What year are you in school? What is your major? What do you like to do in your free time? Em me these answers if you don’t want them floating on the interwebs.
goldy!
Hi Ms. Renina,
I was unable to find your email address but this space feels safe =)
1.How our relationships with our parents (and their relationships with each other) influence our relationships.
What in particular would you like me to focus on?
* By “our relationships” I meant intimate ones with our partners. And as far as relationships with our parents I mean what we have learned from them as they raised or didn’t raise us. (Example, I apologize if its TMI, my father has always “been there” for me as far as love, and financials are concerned but he is extremely hurtful towards women and then tries to buy their affection with material things) Growing up like this obviously has left me with some issues lol. But I need to know how to change/heal/grow from that and an intelligent black feminist’s opinion feels necessary at this point in my life.
3. Apologies from people with major roles in your life that feel “too late.” All up in the bone gristle eh? How late is too late? Awesome question. I actually have two sisters I don’t speak to. We can rock if they heal, until then, I am cool.
*I’m sorry you don’t speak (if you miss them that is) Do you? I don’t have any sisters only a two year old little brother and already I couldn’t imagine life without his presence. Are you okay?
I have a question to pose now, if you can truly accept that “late” apology does that mean you are healing? And what do I do with that apology if the damage is done?
4. Apologies from people with major roles in your life that feel “too late.” What year are you in school? What is your major? What do you like to do in your free time? Em me these answers if you don’t want them floating on the interwebs.
*This fall will be my 3rd year in college.
My major is English, and my minor is African-American studies. Then I plan on hiding out in law school 😉
I enjoy:
reading (African-American lit), listening, talking, (usually about what I/they read), writing, and learning about places I’d like to visit one day, watching old movies & I do a little volunteering (reading with #littlebears.)
If there’s anything else please feel free to ask, I really enjoy your opinion.
@Keondra. Girl. I showed her your comment. She was like. Urhhha. Lol. Thank you for being supportive. It means a Lot.
Hi Honey,
I am glad you feel that this space is safe. It means a LOT to read that in the comment section. Spaces don’t always be safe for Black girls.
1.How our relationships with our parents (and their relationships with each other) influence our relationships.
What in particular would you like me to focus on?
* By “our relationships” I meant intimate ones with our partners. And as far as relationships with our parents I mean what we have learned from them as they raised or didn’t raise us. (Example, I apologize if its TMI, my father has always “been there” for me as far as love, and financials are concerned but he is extremely hurtful towards women and then tries to buy their affection with material things) Growing up like this obviously has left me with some issues lol. But I need to know how to change/heal/grow from that and an intelligent black feminist’s opinion feels necessary at this point in my life.
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Wow. First of all I am really moved by the fact that you seek my opinion. I often pray acknowledging that I don’t know what I am doing, asking for help in taking the next right step.
Reading The Road Less Traveled Really changed my life. There is a post about it here on the blog, if you do a search you will find it. That is a good next right stop in my opinion. I actually just recommended it for my play little sister and she said that it helped her.
3. Apologies from people with major roles in your life that feel “too late.” All up in the bone gristle eh? How late is too late? Awesome question. I actually have two sisters I don’t speak to. We can rock if they heal, until then, I am cool.
*I’m sorry you don’t speak (if you miss them that is) Do you? I don’t have any sisters only a two year old little brother and already I couldn’t imagine life without his presence. Are you okay?
I have a question to pose now, if you can truly accept that “late” apology does that mean you are healing? And what do I do with that apology if the damage is done?
4. Apologies from people with major roles in your life that feel “too late.” What year are you in school? What is your major? What do you like to do in your free time? Em me these answers if you don’t want them floating on the interwebs.
*This fall will be my 3rd year in college.
My major is English, and my minor is African-American studies. Then I plan on hiding out in law school 😉
I enjoy:
reading (African-American lit), listening, talking, (usually about what I/they read), writing, and learning about places I’d like to visit one day, watching old movies & I do a little volunteering (reading with #littlebears.)
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Thank you for sharing.
If you like Black lit you may want to consider MA + PH.D programs in Eng or Af-AM history. Temple, Harvard, Columbia and Duke come to mind.
If you don’t want a Ph.d or if it is cost prohibitive, get an admin job at a school that has tuition remission. I worked for years at NYU and I got a job at Columbia before I left to go to grad school. If I REALLY wanted an MFA I would have took the job @ Columbia and went to school there, but my heart wasn’t in it.
Hiding out in Law School is expensive. Choose wisely.
Re-Sisters. I miss and pray for them everyday. I don’t do angry people. Life is too short. I am very close to my brother. But again, I am clear on my boundaries. He used the “F” word in a conversation the same day Kobe did nearly two months ago believe, and I told him I found his language to be violent. We are working our way back to speaking. I am concerned that my niece and nephew will hear those words adn think its okay. It is not. The thing about it is that I understand that I need to teach people how to treat me. God didn’t put me here to be a rug, nor was I put here to not have my family, chosen or otherwise. Negotiating the in between is what gets hairy.
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When to forgive? Huge one. Forgiveness just kinda washes over me. I also know that my feelings being hurt is a way that I am taught to protect myself.
Love and anger cannot live in the same heart. Forgiving past boo snacks impacts the possibilities of future boo snacks. LOL.
How do relationships with parents impact us as adults? Wowsa’s. Our ability to trust. bell hooks has written about this in All About Love. I am certain that when we don’t deal with a parent abandoning us, we can’t invest emotionally as adults. Full stop. This comes from an writer and I believe therapist, John Bradshaw. We also may not be able to see ourselves as capable parents as well.
Do a blog search for forgiveness or forgive and 4 or 5 posts should come up with that tag.
Thank you for your questions.
I like feeling like a big sister and answering your questions helps me feel that way.
-Renina
Thank you for your time, advice, and honest answers. Your responses make me feel like a little sister and I be needing that wise guidance sometimes.