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This humanity chart represents a scale of how I see
perceive life as being valued in
the hood.

Note the Black girls, D boys and White gentrifiers.

I am thinking about Camus and his idea
that the death penalty is premeditated murder.

I am thinking about This post and picture.

I a thinking, and acting. You been thinking?
About?……

Michelle Obama and The Black Female Body


As early as January, I knew that Michelle Obama’s body
would be a radioactive site and catalyst for a public

discussion about race, class and gender.

About a month ago, I was brainstorming podcast ideas and
the two
that I chose were Michelle Obama and the Black female
body
and Babies Vs. Dreams.

Not more than a week later after I chose these did
Maureen Dowd write about being in a taxi with David Brooks,
who referred to Mrs. Obama’s arms as “Thunder and Lightning.”

There was an ensuing discussion on whether Michelle Obama
should cover up her arms in photogr
aphs. Dowd writes,

In the taxi, when I asked David Brooks about her amazing arms, he indicated it was time for her to cover up. ?She?s made her point,? he said. ?Now she should put away Thunder and Lightning.?

I?d seen the plaint echoed elsewhere. ?Someone should tell Michelle to mix up her wardrobe and cover up from time to time,? Sandra McElwaine wrote last week on The Daily Beast.

I knew that Michell Obama’s body was going to ripe
area for dialogue because she is the first African American
woman to be treated as a symbol of fashion of beauty

who is not a singer or a movie star or athlete.

I am also not surprised by Michelle Obama’s body being
held up to public scrutiny, as Black women’s bodies
have historically, always been held up to public scrutiny.

Michelle Obama is not a set of body parts she is an
accomplished lawyer, mom and wife.
With regard to her accomplishments, I am particularly
drawn to, inspired by and would like to replicate her
work with the Chicago chapter of The Public Allies. Public Allies
is an or
ganization that encourages young people to work on
social issues in nonprofit groups and government
agencies.
In many ways Michelle Obama reminds me of a
loose embodiment
of Claire Huxtable from The Cosby Show.
Stylish lawyer, mom and wife
.

Intuitively, I knew Michelle Obama’s body would be up for discussion
because of the history of publicly appraising the Black female
body.
Historically, in the United States, the Black female body has been
on public display and subjected to public appraisal since chattel slavery.



Historically, the wealth of this nation has been tied to the health
of the Black female body. Enslaved Black female laborers
picked
cotton and tobacco, cleared land and
produced Black children
who were enslaved, became laborers. The healthier a woman

was, the more she worked and the more children she had who worked,
the more children she had, the wealthier the country became
.

Given the history of how the African American female
body has been treated in the United States, the public
attention that she is receiving is a natural
extension of what has happened to us since we arrive here.

The discussion about her body reveals things about
us that we may not rather admit. Our discomfort about race,
the legacy of slavery and the tendency to treat women in general
and Black women specifically like objects.

She also stands out because she does not fit a White
mainstream
standard of beauty or a Black mainstream standard
of beauty
, for that matter.

In the Newsweek article, “What Michelle Means to Us”

Allison Samuels discusses what Michelle Obama’s brown
skin means to African American women. She writes,

Michelle is not only African-American, but brown. Real brown. In an era when beauty is often defined on television, in magazines and in movies as fair or white skin, long straight hair and keen features, Michelle looks nothing like the supermodels who rule the catwalks or the porcelain-faced actresses who hawk must-have cosmetics.

Who and what is beautiful has long been a source of pain, anger and frustration in the African-American community. In too many cases, beauty for black women (and even black men) has meant fair skin, “good hair” and dainty facial features. Over the years, African-American icons like Lena Horne, Dorothy Dandridge, Halle Berry and Beyonc??while beautiful and talented?haven’t exactly represented the diversity of complexions and features of most black women in this country.

That limited scope has had a profound effect on the self-esteem of many African-American women, including me. “When I see Michelle Obama on the cover of magazines and on TV shows, I think, Wow, look at her and her brown skin,” said Charisse Hollands, a 30-year-old mail carrier from Inglewood, Calif., with flawless ebony skin. “And I don’t mean any disrespect to my sisters who aren’t dark brown, but gee, it’s nice to see a brown girl get some attention and be called beautiful by the world. That just doesn’t happen a lot, and our little girls need to see that?my little girl needs to see it.”

Samuels goes on to discuss how Michelle Obama
an serve as a reminder that we can exercise,
take care of ourselves and still have fly hair. I can identify
with this. Even though my hair is natural, the steam room turns my
twists into an lopsided afro, every time. Its irritating. Samuels
discusses how Mrs. Obama exercise routine may impact
us when she writes,

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There have been other articles written about Michelle Obama’s body.

Last November, Erin Aubrey Kaplan wrote “The First Lady
Got Back
” for Salon. On one hand while the article was warm
and appreciative of the fact that a woman with curves
would be a first lady in The White House. The article also

struck me as salacious. I cringed at seeing the word “boo-tay
in the same to Michelle Obama’s. The tone seemed a little
too informal given the seriousness of the topic.

Gina McCauley, a writer, lawyer and activist
who runs
What About our Daughters made
it clear that she didn’t care for Kaplans article. McCauley felt

that Kaplan was enhancing her career at the expense of writing
in an exploitative way about Michelle Obama’s body.


Taking these two views into consideration, I believe that
African American women, regardless of where we fall
on the color, body or political spectrum,
the prominence of Michelle Obama has created a space for
us to talk about things that we wouldn’t normally do publicly.

This is a great thing, in light of the fact that our needs often take
the back burners to the needs of our parents, our partners, our
jobs and our children.
I say this with the understanding that there is a distinction
between Black women talking about themselves, and mainstream media
talking about us.

I am light. As my momma would say, high yellow. When
I visit Oakland in the spring or summer, I turn copper. When I mentioned
this post to a male friend he asked me, “Why does this matter to you,
you are light?” I responded, “This isn’t about me, this is about little Black
girls seeing a brown skinned Black woman, who isn’t an entertainer,
be treated in our society like she has a contribution to make.” He

understood.

While African Americans do not talk about it publicly, we
have pervasive color issues. We are not alone. Many Asian
folks, Indian folks and Caribbean folks do as well. I contend
that having color issues around beauty is one of the
consequences of being descendants of a group of
people who have been colonized. Being lighter,
especially for Black women, historically has meant having
access
to resources and being perceived as being more attractive.
Being light has meant being able to assimilate into main stream
American culture more easily. Being light has meant an easier
time finding a husband.

We can’t post racialize our way out of this. The only way to change it is
to understand why it is this
way, and work to correct how it plays
out in our everyday lives
.

I was reminded of how loaded Michelle Obama’s body is
for some people when I visited a The Field Negro blog today
and a reader was upset over the fact that the Saturday
London Times published a picture of Michelle using a ho

to dig into the ground.


Mrs. Obama looked fly. She was dressed head to in New York
all black. She rocked a fitted sweater with leggings,
cinched waist belt,
patent leather boots and her hair was styled.

While I wasn’t offended by it, I could see how someone
felt that there was an inconsistency between the photographs
of the other prominent women featured in the photo stream.

I just wonder how healthy it is to constantly be reacting
to perceived racist portrayals. Besides, the Obama’s did
just break ground on a garden, which is what the photograph
was commemorating.

But then again, I can understand the sensitivity.

We live in a culture African American people start speculating
about whether a child’s hair will be “good” while the baby is still
in the womb.

We live culture where Chris Rock recently made a documentary
titled, “Good Hair” after his daughter came up to him
crying, saying, “Daddy, why don’t I have good hair?”

How can we be post racial, if we don’t have a fundamental
understanding of how race works in the first place?

I also am led to wonder, whose interests are being served
by
constantly repeating that we are living in a post racial society?

When it comes to Michelle Obama, we see her and our issues,
with a capital “I” get triggered. Being triggered is fine,
so long as the anger is focused and not reactive. That being
said, I am excited that we are having an open an honest
dialogue about Black women, race, gender and standards of beauty.

Blog Talk Radio Podcast:
Michelle and the Black Female Body
Sunday April 4th 6-7pm EST.
Call in. (
347) 843-4723. Join us.

Do you think there is Michelle Obama and a
Slavery Connection?

If not, where does the fascination with the Black
female body come from?

When will we deal with race and for that matter gender?

3.29.09 Tweets of the Week


Many of you use Twitter, some of you don’t. I like it
because of the forced brevity, irony
and nerdy
lunch table aspect.
I share with you.

My first edition of Tweets of the Week.

Dart_AdamsThe Hip Hop industry is a lot like sausage (II). When
you get to see how this shit is really made you think maybe you
don’t wanna fuck w/ it
Sausage really? I get his point tho’ sadly.

marshaambrosiusFloetry break up??? Yes we did part on
bad terms, yes I did write about it on my album, & no I haven’t
seen or talked to her in months/years

Marsha did a “Ask Marsha day” and is answering
seemingly
personal questions. Awesome.

troyblogShowbiz & A.G. “Broken Chains” (Unreleased
1990-1992) http://tinyurl.com/cwr7mq

AjanaM…NYC MTA Alerts is now following you on twitter. damn…
I don’t like the creepy follow either.

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djdnice @2boldent Music is personal. When I made records,
I made them for ME first.
D Nice is awesome.

straightbangin@Dart_Adams alexander hamilton>rip hamilton>
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I like the idea. Not really feeling Anthony Hamilton’s placement:)

jackyj510Icon_lock@danamo Bring back NakedCartWheels!!
Naked Cartwheels was Danyels blog. She influenced me.

bigcedTeena Marie new single with Faith Evans http://ff.im/-1NNSV
I always like new Faith Evans. You read her autobiography?

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Empress Sharhh is the Nicest Emcee Since Jay Electronica



Mos Def Points out Doom’s Awesome Idiosyncrasies.


On the new Doom album, Born Like This, there are many guest stars,

Ghost, Rae, but I had Empress Sharrh joint on repeat for the last twenty
minutes. Take a listen. I’ll wait.



She had me at , “Sign away your publishing for Jordan’s and loosie?”

Say word?

I feel like she made this song for me.

Seeing as The Clipse, on of my favorites,
called me a Tree Huggin’ ass bitch,
it feels good to feel like a song was made for me.

Still Dope represents what is both sad and fresh about hip hop.
On one level, I
thinks its fresh that she even made it. On another, its all
bad that songs like this are so few and far in between.

On this song Doom wears is Boom Bap big band composer hat
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Doom.

Yeh? Ney?

Too weird?

Not weird enough?

Empress Sharr on some 9th Wonder?
Or Kanye or Salaam Remi. Awesome.

Dirty Drawls Love

In mid January, a woman, a middle class, beautiful Jewish
woman
shared a story with me about dating.

Among many things, she talked about dating men who drank,
and drank, and drank and wondering why she continued to
pick these dudes.

She went on to describe what it meant to shift from repeatedly
dating men that were unavailable and deciding to only get serious
with men who wanted to be in a relationship
with her.

I thought hmmmmmm. Dating a man who wants to be in a
relationship with me. That’s cool.

Being willing to walk away if we don’t want the same thing.
Hard, but possible.

Hard because, in our society, women we are raised, to want to snag
the most handsome dude with the highest salary.

There was one thing that she said that stuck with me. She described
how she got to a point right before she met her current husband.

She had been dating with the intention of finding a partner, and because
of this within 2 or 3 dates, after the man made his intentions
known implicitly or explicitly, she kept it moving or proceeded.

She didn’t look at his resume, she didn’t take into consideration
how attractive he was, she didn’t consider whether he had a co-op,
or his MBA, the simple criteria was did he want to be in a relationship
and was he interested in a relationship with her?

Hearing her say this gave me the courage to start drawing
the line in my personal life. What I have found is that
there is a difference between a fence and a wall and most
people, will understand that you not only love them, but you love yourself
as well, so you cannot allow them to trample all over your boundaries.

Which brings me to Filthy. A couple of months ago,
he showed up on my block with yellow tulips, fresh quiche and
orange juice. My three favorites. I had just moved,
so he didn’t know my exact address, just the cross streets.
He had just planned on waiting for me to cross his path.

I was flattered.

His action was precipitated by the fact that we had just
had a conversation earlier that week, and had planned
on linking up, but I because of new information
I received, I was just on some “wait and see.”

One of my male homies was like “Wassup with you two,
what are you going to do?” I said, its on him. He responded, ” I
say this as a man, he may not know how extreme this situation is.
You know, how, when you are about to get laid off, you come in
early, you leave late, you kiss up extra at meetings, M.dot, this situation
requires that work.”

So I mentioned this conversation to Filthy and I also said, “I need
to be with someone who treats me like The Gift. You see, I knew
you were The Gift, you were my friend, I brought you tulips when I
met you. At this point in my life, I need to be with someone
who understands that I am The Gift as well.”

He was like, “What do you mean?”

I explained that, “This means being considerate, and doesn’t
necessarily have to do with a ton of money. For instance, I like
taco’s from the taco truck on 8th ave and 14th street, you could show
up to my door with 3 of those. They are $2 each.
I like tulips, a dozen at Trader Joes is $6. Its not about the money
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a weekend get away. I am down for that too. Ultimately tho,
I am not going to fight you to be with me. Both of us are much
too special for that.”

It was scary saying this to him. I didn’t know if he was going
to balk, or agree or decide I had gone crazy. I was standing
up for myself.

But I had to do it, and the odd thing has been, every since
I said it to him, it has been easier to recognize that I needed to
explicitly say what I need from others, without paralyzing fear
that they dramatically indifferent to my request.

Besides, I also knew that I had prayed for God to take
him out my life and only bring him back when he was
ready. I had not anticipated that his being ready would
require for me to work on being ready, to work on my
patience and my willingness.

I talk a whole lot of smack about personal transformation,
but it is completly different to actually believe that a person
can do it
and to watch and support them while they try.

So, he showed up to my door, flowers, quiche and a half gallon
of Tropicana. Ready to wait. Willing to be considerate.

Looking back on that day, I could only think that this must
be a that dirty drawls love that my momma mentioned
when I growing up.

I want that for myself. I like it.

I also want to be disciplined enough to ensure that my needs
are met. But, I don’t won’t to be so caught up in the past that
I get in the way of my (our) future
.

Besides, grudges stifle creativity and kill Love.

In the end. I am content. Its bumpy at times, other
times its flawless and familiar.

I can’t front. I adore the blue eyed bandit.

You have any Dirty Drawls Love lately?

Why is it so hard to say “this is what I need, I will not
be distracted, I am drawing the line here
“?

Why does Tropicana OJ taste so good but cost
so much?