Comments on: Sometimes a Heart Can’t Afford to Be Just Friends

By: admin

admin — Sat, 27 Mar 2010 23:10:09 +0000

So long as you learned something from it, you good money.

Today, was the first in A long time, that I walked completly in the moment, w/ the understanding
the something was around the corner waiting for me, and when I was ready, they will show up.

Real spit. I wish the same for you Love. Just being content with what is, as opposed to focusing
on what ain’t.

By: tamilchick

tamilchick — Fri, 26 Mar 2010 22:08:47 +0000

I was recently tossed. Thought we were vibing to the same beat for a few months. One night of vulnerability changed it all for him. Then come to find out it was never what I thought it was. Hard pill to swallow. I guess “fearless and vulnerable” is what you say….

By: admin

admin — Fri, 19 Mar 2010 21:21:16 +0000

Oh and thank you for your honesty. I appreciate it.

By: admin

admin — Fri, 19 Mar 2010 21:12:57 +0000

Girrrrrrrrrrrrrl. [This] God?s plans ain?t nothing to mess with. So, I had to fall back.

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Im a stuborrn negro. But I try and have a soft heart and open ears, so I can listen.
Discipline is a mug tho. Spiritual discipline that is.

Congratulations on clearing your path. Nothing quite like it.

By: Tasha

Tasha — Fri, 19 Mar 2010 19:39:17 +0000

Ever have a friend break your heart? You waited so long, you even became best friends and things still didn’t flourish? It’s happened to me and I believe God was trying to tell me something and I finally listened in Dec of 2009. After almost 3 years of crying everytime he had someone “new” and still trying to be the supportive friend who wanted him to be happy, it was a hellish monotony that I couldn’t quit. Then a remarkable event happened that tore my heart to pieces. I cut off all communication with him. I haven’t spoken to him since, I knew that if I did speak with him again, I’d go back into my “another chance” mode and be struck with heartache. I had a very major case of clarity once the ties were cut. He knew what our “friendship” was like, that it could’ve benefited from being on a higher level, yet, God’s plans ain’t nothing to mess with. So, I had to fall back.

By: admin

admin — Wed, 17 Mar 2010 15:58:31 +0000

Is it at anypoint or is it when we are grown in a space of knowing who we are and what we want?
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Yessir. Discipline and courage helps in doing this.

By: john

john — Wed, 17 Mar 2010 04:48:53 +0000

At what point in life do we not settle for the 2 spot? Is it at anypoint or is it when we are grown in a space of knowing who we are and what we want? I think we accept the 2 spot hoping to take first place if that isn’t your goal your shooting low and should never have played the game! But, I understand sometimes we just want to be in but what usually happens is you get in but standing by the door isnt enough anymore you want vip status! LOL Then the confusion steps in and your not sure what your doing there in the first place. And GOD forbid if LOVE actually blossoms. You cant fight the heart for your sure to lose some kind of way, so you have to be prepared for what comes along sometimes you cant though and LIFE TKO’s you on the sneak and leaves you with your head in your palms wonder what the hell happened! LOVE,LIVE…LIFE!!

By: beababy

beababy — Thu, 11 Mar 2010 15:40:14 +0000

i feel that. i am actually in a unique position now where i’m learning that true love and being in a relationship are two totally different things, as oft time in relationships there are expectations, versus pure love that have no conditions, limits, or expectations at all. however its beautiful when the two merge organicly (sp)anyhoo, whatever it is, enjoy!

By: Renina

Renina — Wed, 10 Mar 2010 15:59:36 +0000

@Beababy….
Yeah….Calling spades takes courage and vulnerability…What I am learning tho…is that connections are rare AND…shit needs to take time happen….AND no and yes are awesome words…but not reflecting on shit is the devil.

I am actually a waay more open to shit poppin’ off. Like I said it takes time…Plus I got hella busy…so my mind was like wait…THAT WAS a good time and I want to do it again WHEN I have the time.

Looking forward to 3/30/10 Erykah! Yes.

By: beababy

beababy — Wed, 10 Mar 2010 15:33:17 +0000

It’s a send off if one of the two people know that they want more but settle for just being friends. its cool when yall kickin’ it and spending time, all in the name of friendship, but when you wanna express those “otha” feelings thats when the conflict (usually internal) starts. to minimize suffering, the infamous “keep it real” will suffice… be honest and call a spade a spade