What People Are Saying

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Everything I’m Not Made me Everything I Am….

During Puddle Friday ’08, I called one
oldest homies, Mean Sexy. She brought
it straight to my dome.

She said, “listen, you failed, school didn’t work out
the way you expected, and regardless of whether this
man is in your life or not, YOU have to choose what you
want.

I was like “ouch”.

She continued “Listen, I just failed my drivers test,
and I failed my Ph.D test. But guess what. Thats life.
People fail sh-t. I will take them both again.
Honestly, I don’t feel like you have been living
in the present. You spend your free time and holidays flying
back and forth. If you want to move to Dallas, move. If you
want to stay, stay. If you want to be in transition, do that. But
choose something and move forward.”

Truth be told, I didn’t want to hear ANY of that sh-t.

But, one thing that I know for sure, old school
homies
EARN the right to say the sh-t to you that
you don’t want to hear
.

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Are you okay with telling your friends
things that they don’t want to hear?

Why or why not? Have you done it recently?

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7 Responses to “Everything I’m Not Made me Everything I Am….”

  1. neo says:

    Yep if I consider them friends and they require my advice, sometimes it has to be given straight no chaser, no dilution. I’d expect the same from them too ‘cos it may hurt in the beginning but in the ends its for my benefit.

  2. Model Minority says:

    I’d expect the same from them too ‘cos it may hurt in the beginning but in the ends its for my benefit.
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    You are so f-cking mature.

    Assh-le.

  3. neo says:

    lol…when clear-headed yes.

    I’m trying yo. Its not easy to be mature..being mature is the higher road fam.

    How you feel young’un?

  4. Model Minority says:

    Thank you for asking.

    I’m trying to hold the pieces together.

    I luv’d that dude blood.

  5. Aunt Jackie says:

    i have one girl friend who gives it to me straight and i do the same. as a result we often fight like cats and dogs, but our friendship has lasted almost 20 years…

    one thing we have learned together thru the ins and outs of love is that the ending of a relationship is NOT a personal failure. this is something i believe that us strong women have a hard time deciphering. we go hard at work in school in our financial life and see it all as wins and losses but that’s not the way the love goes…

  6. Model Minority says:

    i have one girl friend who gives it to me straight and i do the same. as a result we often fight like cats and dogs, but our friendship has lasted almost 20 years…

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    Girl you ain’t never lied.
    MS and I are sisters, far as I am concerned.

    But man, she says some shit, that be like DAAANG YOU mean.
    But its out of love, and I needed to hear it.

    I met her on the bus on the way to the million woman march and we been cool every since.

    we go hard at work in school in our financial life and see it all as wins and losses but that’s not the way the love goes…
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    So hard to accept that shit dude.
    Humbling and necessary just the same…

  7. neo says:

    If you need someone to vent you know ya Houston fam-o is right chea…

    the number ain’t changed save the 4 dot after the range..lol